Stop Being So Damn Hard on Yourself. A Love Letter to Who You Are Now

By Sacred Birth and Flow

Just for a second, breathe. Take off the pressure, the guilt, the mental list of everything you think you didn’t do right today.

I’ve been there. Picking myself apart. Second-guessing every choice. Wondering if I’m enough. As a mum. As a woman. As a human, I'm just trying to make it through.

Image courtesy of Anushka Sharma

I’ve stood in front of the mirror pulling at my belly, trying to find the person I used to be before stretch marks and sleep deprivation and snacks hidden in my bra.

I’ve apologised for the noise. For the mess. For the tears, the lateness, the fact that I’m wearing leggings again.

I’m tired of it. And I think you are, too.

Because this version of me has been through so much, she is not falling short . She is rising. Messy, magical, and more than enough.

Motherhood isn’t soft or neat. It is full. Full of noise and need and never enough hours. But it is also full of power and presence and a love so big it rebuilds you from the inside out.

So, can we stop apologising for who we are right now?

Wear the dress. Say no without guilt. Take the photo even if you don’t love the angle. Say it out loud if you have to. I’m doing okay.

Not once you’ve bounced back. Not once the house is spotless or the inbox is cleared. Now. Exactly as you are. In the thick of it. In the body you’re in, with the love you’re carrying, with leggings, messy hair, and a fierce heart that keeps showing up.

What if we stopped trying to claw our way back to who we were “before” — and started falling in love with who we are becoming?

I don’t have to be perfect. I don’t have to prove anything. I just have to keep showing up — for them, and for me.

And that’s enough. More than enough. It’s brilliant. It’s brave. It’s beautiful.

We’re not falling behind. We’re raising humans, and somehow holding ourselves together at the same time. We’re re-learning ourselves. We’re loving harder than we’ve ever loved. We’re quietly becoming the strongest version of who we’ve ever been.

So, please. Stop being so damn hard on yourself. You’re already everything they need — and then some.